i've never known a lot of Social Theory or how to use the words properly

i get the feeling there's a spectrum of acceptable / represented forms of masculinity and femininity, even ones represented as "nonconforming" like the sweet and gentle mr rogers or the tough and rough bully girl persona, despite being around ever since television was a thing?

and we're also pretty much aware that these are meant to be subversive or otherwise detracting from a central ideal form of masculinity / femininity, even though we're also totally aware that they aren't subversive or new at all?

i imagine i'm not the first person to ever thing these thoughts so i'm wondering if there's some useful vocabulary here that y'all know