devtesla

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devtesla wrote

there was like a week where discussing karens was fun in a like "oh yea, that's a type of person" way but it has been like five years since then and there's less than nothing left to say. this always happens with these type of things Lol

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devtesla wrote (edited )

ALL LOV

Keeping busy to feel less bad is not the worst thing in the short term. It sort of becomes a problem if you like, spend years driving forward to escape feeling things. That's just kind of how we're all taught to process things and it's not good!

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devtesla wrote

that's from me irl! there's a lot of different ways to interpret "don't be racist, homophobic etc.", while asking "don't be edgy" is much narrower. it is completely wild how much less drama we had in our modmail after we changed the rules

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devtesla wrote

never want to see an ad. who gave you permission?

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devtesla wrote

sorry for coming back after so long only to be sad on main

absolutely not a problem, just post!! all love Toast!!

I don't have any advice that isn't what someone else said. You deserve to be someone's no. 1 and you will find that someday.

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devtesla wrote

Ahh oh no! I'm going to assume my advice didn't help Lol. Good luck

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devtesla wrote

just a small town moon
orbitn around a lonely world

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devtesla wrote

I think you're on the right track! There's not a right or wrong answer here, you have to do what works for you.

It might be helpful to not really consider this one message you want to give them, but two. Message one is "I have a crush on you", and it's the undeniable, emotional one. Message two is "I want to do something with the crush" which is the one that you're still deciding what you want, and really needs their input on what they want. You're not going to decide to get rid of the crush, the rest you can decide not to do even if it will hurt to give up on it.

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devtesla wrote (edited )

I think telling them something like, "we've been spending a lot of time together, I've got a full on crush on you, and I think it might be real love" would be a good idea. You're spending a lot of time alone together, you know each other well enough, it's appropriate and good!

All the other complications of distance and sexuality can be worked out after you just say that you have a crush.

If this is partly just because of loneliness, so what? It's still a crush. That's something you can say to them and they'll work it out with you.

Learn to ignore feelings like "they're too good for me". It is 100% up to them who is good enough for them.

My one last piece of advice is to say that you have a crush before you visit them. A situation where they think they're hosting a friend on a visit, and you think you love them, is gonna get both of you hurt.

I hope this helps, good luck!

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devtesla wrote

"getting the banned back together" sounds like a really cursed event for conservatives banned from twitter

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devtesla wrote

They're called forums here lol

I think the only forum bans here are jokes. As for sitewide bans, every month or so we have a spammer we have to deal with, and once or twice we had some weirdo come here from raddle or reddit specifically to stir up shit and we nab em.

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devtesla wrote

I am, thank you groovygardener42069 ! welcome back!