What was it like when you had sex for the first time?

Submitted by xifiesco at June 30, 2018, 5:27 PM in ask

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cute_spider_ni_srsly wrote at June 30, 2018, 6:41 PM

it sure didnt involve orgasms from any one involved

xifiesco wrote at July 1, 2018, 1:02 AM

that sucks

cute_spider_ni_srsly wrote at July 5, 2018, 6:35 PM

it was okay, we tried it a few more times and got things working.

cute_spider_ni_srsly wrote at July 5, 2018, 6:36 PM

dont forget: the goal of sex really isn't biggest/most orgasms

hollyhoppet wrote at July 1, 2018, 8:56 PM

Awkard, difficult, hard to keep it up. Probably dysphoric without me realizing it. My partner at the time had some really rough body image issues so I don't know if it was very great for them either.

xifiesco wrote at July 2, 2018, 2:36 AM

Wow. So far everyone's first time was horrible.

hollyhoppet wrote at July 2, 2018, 3:54 AM

Anectodally, I've found most people I've talked to about it have had a bad first time?

Like... it's just another one of those things that for some reason (probably institutional sexism in some way) is forbidden to talk about.

cute_spider_ni_srsly wrote at July 2, 2018, 3:04 PM

sex is better when you can laugh about it.

noordinaryspider wrote at July 10, 2018, 3:27 PM

sex sux.

BIG_GAY_UNDERSCORE wrote at July 2, 2018, 1:17 PM

sex is gay

xifiesco wrote at July 3, 2018, 12:49 AM

username checks out

[deleted] wrote at July 2, 2018, 9:12 AM (edited at November 1, 2021, 1:34 PM)

xifiesco wrote at July 3, 2018, 12:49 AM

join the club

musou wrote at July 1, 2018, 1:09 AM

bad. F- would not again

noordinaryspider wrote at July 9, 2018, 10:29 PM (edited at July 19, 2018, 6:48 PM)

I don't know, because I was really drunk at the time.

Not much fun. Scary waking up because he was drunk too, I was a minor and he wasn't, and it was so not cool that our skins were different colours. :(

We literally never spoke to each other again. We were always running into each other at parties and dropping acid together. Once he pointed at me and said, "I boinked (pronoun)." randomly and I neither confirmed nor denied it.

ETA: I'm reading this: https://everydayfeminism.com/2016/05/alcohol-and-consent-questions/ and wanted to clarify that I do not feel raped by the man I gave my virginity to. He was a perfectly decent human being and we might have been friends under other circumstances.

The alcohol made both of us temporarily forget the existence of racism and statutory rape laws. I was just flattered that a "big kid" thought I was pretty, if you want to know the truth. What could have happened to a twenty year old black man who got drunk and woke up in a bed with a naked white fourteen year old girl in the 1970s is not something I particularly want to talk about.

If he felt raped by me, I am so sorry. That wasn't even on my radar until a few months ago.