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cute_spider_ni_srsly wrote
Gosh I wish I had good advice on how to put down flags and candles. But oh boy if you want someone who can help you imagine scenarios where romance circumstances change, I've got a banger going where all three of them move to your own city and that's what makes the relationship fall apart! It's based on my own candles that I wont put down.
toasthaste wrote (edited )
I super don't want someone to help me imagine those scenarios, brain conjuring them up endlessly against my wishes already XD
I know Joy, I know what she's like in relationships, I've met her partners-- those relationships are NOT going anywhere. She is VERY VERY good at relationships! She is a devoted and committed partner and those are explicitly Maximum Commitment Life Partnerships. Sure, unexpected unlikely things can always happen but just. Thinking that way lies madness.
it fucking sucks
toasthaste wrote (edited )
Yeah, it really sucks. And then of course part of my brain-- because we both WANT to date each other, and get a lot out of it-- is going haywire with "well maybe some of the circumstances will change one day." I mean they theoretically COULD, but. I worry I'm gonna holding a candle for her, going "who knows, maybe something'll change" forever if I let myself.